In all the daily routines at home, we were taught This is what we do, This is how we do it, This is where things go. Most of these were routines and habits established simply by the way in which our parents had ordered their own lives. We learned by watching. But what if our parents had not been there? What if we had seen more of some other "caregiver" than we saw of Daddy and Mother? The power of influence would have been diluted. "Quality time" can never substitute for ordinary days spent doing ordinary things together.
The Shaping of the Christian Family by Elisabeth Elliot
(pg 156, italics hers, bold mine)
This affected me more in the "do we have daily routines?" (sorta) "what are they?"(um, er) "how are they practiced"(um, er) "what could be improved?" (much) sense than what she says of "Quality Time and caregivers." In fact, I almost quoted the last, bolded part of the last sentence only. Isn't that a lovely way to think of it? How do we arrange our "Ordinary Time?" How do we have "Ordinary Days?"
And, most importantly, how do we establish those routines with children (and 40 year old mommies) who haven't ever had or been good at routines for ordinary days?
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